What Would You Do? Blog Series
Welcome to the What Would You Do? Blog Series
If you’ve ever found yourself knocked flat by grief, loss, or just a good old-fashioned life curveball, then friend—you’re in the right place. Over the next several weeks, I’ll be sharing a healing blog series called “What Would You Do?” based on my article published in Get Griefy Magazine. Each post will walk you through one of the practical, grace-filled, sometimes laugh-through-the-tears tools I’ve used (and still use) to navigate my own story of loss.
This series isn’t about pretending life isn’t hard. It’s about offering real tools for real people walking through the messy middle of grief. You’ll find hope, humor, and maybe even yourself again.
So let’s begin with where any good fixer-upper starts: the toolbox.
Don’t Face Grief Empty-Handed
Build Your Resilience Toolkit
You wouldn’t show up to fix a leaky faucet without a wrench. So why show up to life’s hardest moments without a toolkit of your own?
Grief is messy, unexpected, and completely unfair—but having a resilience toolkit can help you survive the rough days and slowly start finding your footing again. Think of it like emotional duct tape and a flashlight for when everything feels dark and broken.
Here’s the truth: your toolkit doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s. It just has to work for you. Some days it’s a playlist and a pair of fuzzy socks. Other days it’s boundaries and a brisk walk that saves your sanity.
What Goes In a Resilience Toolkit?
🧰 Boundaries
Because “No” is a full sentence. Protect your time, energy, and healing space like your life depends on it—because sometimes it does.
🧰 Support System
Surround yourself with people who refill your cup, not drain it. This could be friends, family, a coach, or your dog. (Dogs always count.)
🧰 Comfort Items
That cozy blanket? Your favorite hoodie? A soft playlist, warm tea, or a notepad to brain-dump your emotions? Yes, yes, and yes. Comfort is a healing tool.
🧰 Action Tools
Move your body. Walk, dance, paint, lift something heavy, cry into your journal, bake cookies—whatever helps release the emotion and keep you moving.
🧰 Humor
Because sometimes all you can do is laugh. Laugh through the mess. Giggle through the tears. Watch cat videos like it’s a prescription. Humor is healing, too.
Grief Tip from My Heart:
Keep a stash of comforting items nearby—a “go bag” for the soul. Mine includes fuzzy socks, chocolate (non-negotiable), a lavender rollerball, and a playlist that somehow always knows what I need. Your version might look totally different, and that’s okay. It just needs to remind you that you’re not alone.
Why It Matters
Building a resilience toolkit gives you something to reach for when your brain can’t make decisions, when your heart is heavy, or when you just need a small reminder that you’ve made it through hard days before.
It’s not about “fixing” your grief. It’s about giving yourself what you need to survive it.
Ask Yourself:
What’s one thing I can put in my toolkit today?
Start small. One item. One action. One breath of space in your day. That’s where healing begins.
Call to Action
🌟 Tell me in the comments: What’s something that belongs in YOUR resilience toolkit?
🎒 Or better yet—build it and tag me on Instagram @butterfliesandhalos with your #ResilienceToolkit!
Next up in the series? We’re talking about the power of community and why healing doesn’t happen in isolation.
Spoiler alert: your dog counts, but snacks and supportive humans are game-changers too.