Give Up Anger and Choose Patience
Let’s just say it: grief makes us mad.
And not just a little annoyed—like burning rage in your chest, fists clenched, screaming-into-the-pillow kind of mad.
Anger is a natural part of grief. It shows up uninvited and sometimes overstays its welcome.
You might be angry at:
💔 The person who died—for leaving.
💔 The people around you—for not understanding.
💔 The world—for moving on too quickly.
💔 Yourself—for not doing more.
💔 And yes… even God—for allowing it to happen.
Here’s the thing: anger isn’t wrong.
But if we’re not careful, it starts writing the story for us.
Grief and the Fire of Anger
Anger in grief often stems from pain that has nowhere else to go.
It’s the bodyguard emotion—it steps in when everything feels out of control.
But the longer we let anger drive, the more it isolates us.
We push people away.
We become impatient with ourselves and others.
We start believing that healing is for other people, not us.
That’s when anger becomes a burden.
Patience Isn’t Passive—It’s Powerful
Choosing patience doesn’t mean we stuff down our anger.
It means we pause, breathe, and respond instead of react.
Patience says:
🕊 “I can be angry and still hold space for healing.”
🕊 “I’m not where I want to be—but I’m not stuck.”
🕊 “God can handle my anger—and still love me through it.”
Patience is what gives grace time to do its quiet work.
What Patience Looks Like in Grief
💜 Giving yourself space to feel without judgment.
💜 Allowing others to show up imperfectly—even when it’s frustrating.
💜 Trusting that healing takes time (and sometimes a lot of it).
💜 Letting God meet you in the pause, not just in the answers.
It’s okay to be angry.
But it’s also okay to not live there forever.
Your Invitation This Week
💭 Where is anger showing up in your grief right now?
💭 How might patience invite softness, even if it doesn’t bring answers?
💭 What would it look like to give yourself permission to feel—and still move forward with grace?
Anger doesn’t disqualify you from healing.
You don’t have to be calm to be faithful.
You just have to be willing to let love speak a little louder than the hurt.
Stay tuned for the SPECIAL Easter Reflection: What We’re Rising Into that will be posted on Easter Sunday.
Final lenten post next Friday: Give Up Gloom and Become More Joyful